Where are you?
We need you to be available to do life with us.
Where are the mentors? The women willing to expose bits and pieces of what they have learned along the way.
For years I have heard this question from countless young women hungry to grow with women of generations other than their own.
Not leaving behind their own generation – forsaking them for the purpose of spending time with older women, rather, hoping to glean from the life experience of these women and take what they learn back into their most treasured relationships.
As I have asked the question for myself, here is what I have found helpful:
1 -Ask God to lead the search. He cares about the details of our lives.
God desires for us to share life with those who have gone before us.
One generation shall commend your works to another. (Psalm 145:4-7). He draws hearts together. It sounds simple but it’s true.
2 – Be aware of women around you.
Stretch out of your normal comfort zone. Be willing to attend gatherings where you have opportunity to meet women of all generations. Begin to notice women around you in your every day life situations who are a bit older than you. It is sometimes easier for us to be most comfortable with our own age group and forget to notice others around us.
3 – Look for in others – characteristics you hope to develop in yourself.
Do you see these strengths in another woman? We grow in the safety of real relationship. I want to spend time with women who possess strengths I may not have developed yet – or perhaps areas where I am weak or could stand to grow. We learn from one another. Not that I want to become like them, but I want to be the best me I can be.
4 – Be interested in the lives of those around you.
Often we are intimidated by women of other generations. We think they have it all together. We assume they don’t have time for us. So we don’t even engage them. All it really takes is sincere interest in another to break the ice. When we take the time to be interested in someone else, chances are we find we have something we can relate to in that person.
5 – Be real.
A mentoring relationship at its best, offers the gift of bringing our real self, all walls down, all masks off and open to allowing another to see where God is at work in our lives. It’s here the most rewarding growth takes place.
6. Allow the relationship to grow organically.
Healthy relationship builds over time. There is no magic formula for the perfect mentoring relationship. The best hope we have is to offer the relationship to God and allow Him to direct our thoughts and plans. You may choose to go through a study together, meet to pray together, share dinner together, cook meals together, meet for coffee or many other choices. What ever works best for the two of you is what will allow the relationship to grow naturally.
ENJOY the seeking. ENJOY finding and getting to now one another!
How has this been helpful to you?
What step do you need to take?