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The Compare Switch & Book Giveaway Winner

The flip of a switch.  One day I compare myself to everyone – the next I don’t.

A complete understanding of who I am in Christ.

Oh that I could make it happen instantaneously.

The switch is more of a long journey in the same direction.  Pressing on toward the goal for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:14).

I want to rest in knowing He loves me.  To believe He is my portion.

The Lord is my portion or share, says my living being (my inner self); therefore will I hope in Him and wait expectantly for Him.  (Lamentations 3:23-24 – Amplified)

My journey along this path was very painful.  At times excruciatingly so.  …  the road is pitted with trials that beckon me to return to what I once learned and apply it to my life.

I spent so much of my life comparing myself to other women.  God would draw me to Himself and challenge me as to whether I was seeking His approval or mans.  Because I wanted a heart sold out to worship One True God, I would have to repent of my sin.  My sin of putting false gods before Him.  His word tells me He won’t have that.  Plain and simple.

He knew me before He formed me.  All of my days were written before one of them came to be.  If I want to be in intimate relationship with a Holy God – my Creator – I have to recognize that He knew exactly who I was created to be.  He has the design.  The blueprint.

I began to make the switch.  From thinking that was consumed with what others were doing and how they perceived me – to trusting God with who He created me to be.  Leaning into Him to learn how to switch my thinking.  Switch my responding. Switch my words.

The battles we fight in our minds as women are very real.  Very lethal.  And quite honestly, absolutely exhausting emotionally.  Left to ourselves we are unable to fight these battles.  In order to make this switch we must take our thoughts captive.  Stop them dead in their tracks and rewire our thinking.  Or better yet – allow God to rewire our thinking.  2 Corinthians 10:4-5 tell us the weapons we fight with are not the weapons of this world, but have divine power to demolish strongholds and every pretension that sets itself up against Christ.  When my thoughts were consumed with comparison to others, it was a stronghold in my life setting itself up against Christ.

I am grateful today to know a peace that passes all understanding because of the switch I made in deciding to take my thoughts captive and begin to think God’s thoughts over myself.

In the moments you feel tempted to compare yourself to another, risk flipping the  switch and taking your thoughts captive to begin thinking God’s thoughts over you.

CONGRATULATIONS Lyndsey on being the winner of the Kisses from Katie Book Giveaway!

Homemade JOY from the hands and heart of a dear friend Donna.

When is it ok to compare?

A lethal word. Compare. Doesn’t it just make you cringe?

com·pare

[kuhm-pair] verb, com·pared,com·par·ing, noun

1. to examine (two or more objects, ideas, people, etc.) in order to note similarities and differences:

I lived most of my life playing the comparison game.

Only it’s really not a game – is it?

For me – it infected every relationship. Unable to be at ease in any friendship or interaction with others, I constantly fell short. In my late teens and early twenties when I met other young women I was constantly on guard when my boyfriend was near. If she was beautiful, funny and energetic the insecurity became unbearable. Even if I respected the young woman, she was a threat.  Once I was married the roots of comparison grew deeper.

I was in bondage to measuring myself against another. Bondage I carried with me for many years. I didn’t ask anyone what they were thinking about me. I assumed. What if I say —, what if I do—, I just said—, she would never do that.  If I could only— maybe she will accept me. Oh no! I just said—she will never forgive me! She would never handle it the way I did.

Then it happened – I was forced to let them think what they may and stop my striving to make certain they knew my heart and motives.

Initially I thought I might die.  In all truth, I did.  Die to self.

By the leading of an all sufficient God, I was lovingly forced to let Him advocate.  He knew I was imprisoned to the responses, reactions, thoughts and opinions of others.

Galatians 1:10 admonishes me to stop and ask myself if I am living for the approval of man or of God. Paul makes it clear speaking to the church at Galatia – he tells them if he [Paul] was still trying to please man, he would not be a servant of Christ. I take heed to Paul’s words as written to me.

I came to an understanding of who I am in the eyes of God Himself. He knew me before He formed me. He created me and knew every detail about me (Psalm 139).
I began to draw near and allow Him to direct my thoughts, to leave the opinions of others in His hands. What I found in the dying – peace that passes all understanding.

When is it ok to compare?

To note similarities and differences?

When we are lining ourselves up alongside the Word of God.

Not for the purpose of condemning ourselves or building ourselves up.

But in an effort to live a life worthy of the calling we have received in Christ.

To understand who we are in Christ.

Here we find freedom that runs deep enough to feed and give live to the very roots once infected by the poison of the need to compare.

How has comparison affected your life?