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Mentor Survey Says…Day 7 & Book Giveaway

This is day seven and the final day of the Mentor Survey findings.

The question: As you were seeking to find a mentor, what characteristics were you looking for in a woman who would invest in you?

Much insight has been given from the hearts of these young women representing the age group ranging from twenty-five to forty.

MT SAYS – “Characteristics I look for in a mentor: Honesty. Someone who will tell me not what I want to hear, but what is true. Someone who always seeks and encourages reconciliation. Someone who encourages me to pray and seek the Lord for an answer ininstead of simply giving me one.”

What does it take for us to offer this to a younger woman?

It takes a personal growing relationship with God. An understanding that Jesus died in order to reconcile us to Himself.

A woman who is at home in her relationship with God will have something to offer because of that relationship. A friend said to me many years ago…you eat a bit of the Word, and then you give it away. The simplicity of the sharing gospel-centered life is found in understanding all we have to offer another is what God Himself pours into us.

And it is sufficient.

The women we have heard from will settle for nothing less than uncompromising authenticity. I dare say they speak for many in their generation.

Tempted daily by the life this world offers at the touch of a remote control, or the flip of a magazine page. Disconnected and isolated in many ways from one on one relationship due in part to the increased overstimulation of social media and technology. Young women today long for real relationship that leads to a very real God. They yearn to know how to live in a way that the gospel comes to life. And they do not want to do it alone.

How have these young women’s words impacted you?

What will you do in response to what you have heard?

Please share your heart.

Beginning this month I will be offering a book giveaway!

I recently finished reading Kisses from Katie – The story of a young woman who has surrendered her life to the Lord to live in the midst of what most of us would consider mind blowing circumstances. As she shares her story you will be drawn to her unwavering dependence on a very real God.

I will do a drawing on April 30th from all who leave comments on any of the seven days posts.

Thank you!

Click here to read day 1, day 2, day 3, day 4, day 5, and day 6


Mentor Survey Says…Day 4

We are 4 days into showing the responses to the following survey question:

As you were seeking to find a mentor, what characteristics were you looking for in a woman who would invest in you?

This particular young lady was seeking a woman who exemplified “Spiritual maturity, similar doctrine, healthy marriage, Christlike character, trustworthiness”. LJ

Perfect spiritual maturity? Perfect marriage? Flawless Christ-like character?

That’s what we tend to think. And at times that’s what keeps us from making ourselves available.
Feeling that we could never measure up enough to influence the life of another.

Although full and complete spiritual maturity is what we seek in Christ, it will not be realized until we are face to face with Him.

Until then, 1 Peter 2:2-3 tells us we are to like newborn infants, long for the pure spiritual milk, that by it you may grow up into salvation— if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.

Ephesians 4:15-16 tell us – speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

Spiritual maturity is shown in the way we choose to posture ourselves before the Lord.
Not an attempt to measure up for others. Women will know if we possess spiritual maturity by the way we choose to handle life circumstances.

And our marriages…do they need it to be perfect? Not at all. Those who are seeking to have others invest in them need to know that struggle in marriage is sometimes part of the story. That God will use all things for good. Just because struggle and conflict and challenge come, they do not have to define the marriage. Rather, they actually provide the testimony of God’s work in the relationship.

As we share parts of our stories and where God has impacted our marriages, we offer much needed hope. We become approachable and build trust.

O LORD, may we be found trusting YOU and in that posture find that we will be trustworthy disciples. Who make disciples who make disciples who make disciples.

Are you seeking someone to invest in you?

Are you investing in another?

Ae you growing to become more like Christ?

Does this young lady’s response encourage you or intimidate you?

Thank you for taking the time to read and to respond.


Mentor Survey Says… Day 3

Day 3 of the findings from the survey question:

As you were seeking to find a mentor, what characteristics were you looking for in a woman who would invest in you?

And today’s answer is from the perspective of what she found in her mentor rather than what she was looking for:

SDB SAYS – “I was drawn by a natural connection in spirit. I felt loved and accepted and safe to be honest”.

As I think about her answer it reminds me of what I found as I came to know Christ in a personal relationship. For the first time in my life I felt loved and accepted in a way that I had never experienced before. I had spent much of my life seeking acceptance and love and yearning for relational safety. When I found this with Christ, I felt I could open myself to Him and not fear rejection.

We can offer to others what Christ offers us. The Word tells us we are to be imitators of Christ (Ephesians).

Do you offer love, acceptance and safety to another?

Do you find love, acceptance and safety for yourself in someone with skin on?

I’d love to hear about it.

Mentor Survey Says…Day 2

Yesterday began seven days of answers to a survey question regarding mentoring.

I asked seven women ranging in age from twenty-five to forty one key question regarding mentoring:

The question?

As you were seeking to find a mentor, what characteristics were you looking for in a woman who would invest in you?

The answer given by this young lady:

“Humility, gentleness, God-fearing, sound mind/discerning, clear/bold speaker ( not vague), read the Word regularly, prayer warrior, serves others, puts faith to action ( not a pew sitter/ all talk no action)” SF

On one hand the characteristics she is looking for will be exhibited toward her in relationship. Healthy, life-giving relationship. Creating a safe space in which to be herself, free of judgement, free to grow through whatever she faces.

On the other hand what she is looking for are characteristics that will be exhibited in the life of the one ‘doing life’ with her.

What we model makes a difference to those who are watching us live our lives.

I remember the first young lady who asked me to invest in her. When she asked me if I would be willing to mentor her, she said she had been watching me and considered me to be a Godly woman. Now, before you get carried away and think I am holier than thou – think again please. She was careful to observe me based on the criteria she had established. I would hope that what she saw was a desire to handle all things as best as possible in a way that drew others to God. Not necessarily free of conflict or confrontation, or sin, but handled with love, truth and repentance.

God is not looking for perfection any more than those who are seeking to find a mentor are – rather He is looking for those whose hearts are fully committed to Him (2 Chronicles 16:9).

And so is she…

To read Mentor Survey Says post Day 1, click here